Domestic Violence: A Burning Spear In The Heart of our Society
Family is the smallest unit of a society and marriages produced a lot of families, which form the nucleus of our society. We have to take some sort of action to what is dealing with the existence of our society , Domestic Violence, it is not peculiar to Nigeria alone, it happens severally in every other part of the world. However, it is a common experience in Nigeria, if Mama Nkechi no run out of her home while raining insults on Papa Nkechi after receiving some punches before escaping his grasp; Iya Kafaya will be trading insults with her husband over a matter that ought to be settled amicably in the bedroom. Some Western society experience minimal Domestic violence cases, because there are strict laws and heavy punishment place on such act. Although, In some states in Nigeria(Lagos , kebbi e.t.c. have such laws) there are minimal laws against domestic violence just like other 3rd world countries.
Domestic violence has been on of the major bone of contention in our contemporary societies, it has been on the increase in the past weeks. Domestic violence (also named domestic abuse or family violence) is violence or other abuse in a domestic setting, such as in marriage or cohabitation. It is often used as a synonym for intimate partner violence, which is committed by a spouse or partner in an intimate relationship with the other, and can take place in heterosexual or same-sex relationships, or between former spouses or partners. In its broadest sense, domestic violence also involves violence against children, parents, or the elderly. According to the W.H.O 1 out of 3 woman suffers domestic violence , it is done to claim power or control over the other person. It’s more common among men, for instance most guys would want to show their power by flexing their muscles, in a show to say “saying I’m the head, you either obey me by fire or by force” They inflict pain on their wives or partner to gain cheap authority ( hmm why not wish fix a boxing match against Joshua Anthony let’s see who is really strong) On the contrary, some wives push their husbands into the act. For instance, shouting and yelling at your husband in a heated argument, or even do the extreme by hitting him first (Note: Nothing justifies domestic violence, individuals are solely responsible for any pains inflicted on the other person ). It totally wrong to continue to stay in a relationship that you are being abuse or manhandle, it’s better to leave than to get killed, injured or deformed through one violence act or the other. More so, children should also stop the act of yelling and raising voice at their parents in response to their call, to avoid provoking violent reaction from such parents.
Domestic violence acts are caused by physical, sexual, psychological, economic or mental issues. Maxim said “ an hungry man is an angry man” if a man is not financially capable he will be frustrated and psychologically, he would be unstable , in this case, we find the husband venting such anger unto his wife and children and every other person around him.
The lack of mutual understanding between couples leads to regular disagreement and arguments which often than not results in the trading of jabs and fists.
The effect of domestic violence on the society is highly debilitating, It has a lot of negative effects on individuals, studies shows that, domestic violence can cause physical and emotional harm in an individual's life in the following ways: Unending anxiety and depression, Emotional distress, Loss of appetite and sleep disorder, unstable health, and Low self-esteem among many other numerous negativities.
Most time, it turns out to be a natural occurrence, some individuals especially the females in a relationship are like “if my boyfriend did not beat me , that means he did not love me “ what a disgusting claim! She has taken such act as normalcy, due to the fact she has been open constantly to some forms of violence or the other. We have to create an enabling society for ourselves, we should also ensure that we make the right choosing our partners, its best and advisable to marry ones best friend who can tolerate every shortcomings and understands ones differences to make a relationship pleasurable and fruitful union.
Enough of domestic violence, we should love and embrace ourselves, let find time to attend to pending issues you had overtime , and also learn to listen to one another. Domestic violence will tear apart a family, tear down a community and leave the society in utter ruin if it is allowed to breed. Beware!
